Your Ally in Grief and Loss
“Hamrah” means fellow traveler in Farsi.
World affairs and a pandemic have brought renewed attention to the fragility of life.
The western model has medicalized death as something to be avoided at all costs. However, death is the only constant we have in this life. Other cultures, as well as indigenous people perceive death as a rite of passage or a doorway to a rebirth. Rituals for mourning are designed to help those left behind.
Loss can encompass death or other types of stressful change in our lives. Even positive loss, as in becoming an empty-nester, carries a type of grief reaction that most people discount.
- Have you lost a loved one, or anticipate losing someone?
- Have you experienced other forms of loss (pet, financial, relationship, etc.)?
- Have you given any thought to your own mortality and how you wish your last days to be spent?
- Have you made your loved ones aware of your wishes? Are you aware of theirs?
- Do family dynamics or belief systems prevent you and your loved ones from having this dialogue?
- Are you knowledgeable on what Hospice actually does, and how to select a good agency for your needs?
- Do you need assistance in understanding and navigating the complex medical system?
I have been a witness to the above issues in the last few years as I lost loved ones or sat holding the hands of my patients in hospice as they took their last breath. I have also helped those who grieve, as I learned to cope with my own grief and loss.
This has compelled me to offer my experience as a medical professional, as well as a student of eastern philosophies to bridge the gap in understanding death, how to die feeling complete, and how best to cope with grief associated with death and loss. How to facilitate conversations early and try to resolve family conflicts so that death becomes a peaceful transition, whether by chronic illness or a sudden event. And how to navigate the grieving process both before and after loss.
If you are searching for tools to answer the above questions, I welcome the opportunity to walk with you on your journey.
Shabnam Hashemi, BSN, RN, GC-C, CCM, CCP has over 30 years of experience in healthcare. She is a Certified Grief Counselor, a Board-certified Nurse Care Manager, and a Chronic Care Provider health coach. She has experience as a Hospice Nurse Care Manager, training in Cognitive Behavioral techniques, as well as Mindfulness, and the healing of grief and trauma associated with loss.
She believes in a holistic approach involving mind-body-spirit. Her work has evolved into an exploration of life transitions, and death and dying. She draws on her own personal experience with grief and loss as well as current research.
Shabnam offers private consultation, both remotely and in-person, as well as group sessions.
To see if this is the right approach for you, please call for a free 15-minute consultation.
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